I am not your guru!

Teaching was never my thing. My journey is just that. My journey. I might come off or seem like someone who is a sort of … knowledgeable if that’s the right word? 5 years are under my belt. As of 2021, that’s 5 years of learning and growing literally every single day unless I was sick or just unable. I know my journey very very fucking well so I don’t allow anyone to try to gaslight me on that fact.

If you find my blog helpful or because you might be going through the same experience, I need you consider to focus on your journey. Learn and experience as you go. It’s going to take a lot of work. No one can give you the cheat sheet or tell you what to do. Everyone is on a different path. Think for yourself and more importantly…

Learn to be okay with being wrong!

About everything. Every single thing you experience. This is not to say you are crazy because most of us aren’t. I think we would rather be normal but hey, not much we can do about it. You know what I mean if you’ve genuinely been there.

Wipe your slate clean. Remove everything you have learned in the past. If you joined twin flame groups? Ditch them. They are full of negativity. It’s kind of that “too many cooks in the kitchen” going on. As a chef out of practice it’s not pretty! I have 2 friends with TFs in spirit. We support and encourage each other and I love it that way. It’s positivity I wouldn’t get from a community that ironically believes in unconditional love. Says a lot about them. I will listen to your concerns but it’s not my job to validate you experience and it’s not your job to validate mine.

I know this journey is difficult and we are naturally social creatures. I get that. But I’ve become so frustrated with how the TF community behaves. I don’t want people to go through that. For me it wasn’t so bad but it could have been worse. Having heard stories, I’ve made it a personal sin to join groups related to TFs.

Be okay with being “alone”

No one’s ever really alone but having a TF who isn’t alive feels isolating. I suffered for years before I had the courage to begin this journey.

I will finish this later…. Meds are kicking in.