How I make myself happy!
Self-care is self love, right? Well how I accomplish that is actually fairly easy. I’m writing this at a time of grief and mourning over the loss of a very close friend of mine. My independence means a lot to me! In fact I’m a little too independent to the point I try to do everything myself and hate asking for help or become antisocial.
Idk when I stopped searching outside myself for happiness. It’s just something I noticed recently. I don’t count on Rick to make me happy 😌. Instead I do things like;
- Shower. Yes, I don’t shower everyday. It’s not necessary unless I’ve sweat a whole lot or smell I’m funky. Sometimes even on a day I don’t feel like I physically need a shower. Mentally and spiritually a shower for me is cleansing in that way. I feel so much better having had a shower.
- Watch funny shows/movies. Laughter is the best medicine.
- Buy something nice or shiny.
- Go for a walk. I used to do this a lot when I worked outside of my home on my breaks.
- Listen to music. Depending on my mood I have several playlists to listen to.
- Rest. I take an extra seroquel or a klonopin. They help to stop my mind from going a mile a minute especially when I’m angry, anxious or depressed. I’m knocked out for just a couple of hours and I wake up usually feeling much better having had rest. If I don’t get a full 8 hours of sleep it ruins my day in ways that I become irritated and anxious. So taking an extra seroquel or a klonopin is warranted.
- Draw and color. I don’t draw as much now but when I did it was relaxing. Especially when I had headphones on listening to a podcast, audiobook, or music.
- Go to the gym. Working out makes me feel better only if I actually take the time to walk there and back. Lately I’ve not been motivated but it’s still on my list because when I actually go I feel so much better about myself.
- Put on makeup or do a makeover. A change however long is nice. I’m in a much better mood when I look good.
Since I’m on disability and collect a government check (because I’m disabled), it’s easier for me to practice these things. When I was working a regular 9-5 office job, time was usually limited. I found that working from home or not working at all easier to manage myself. If you can find some ways to keep yourself happy the best you can, it’s worth a try.
I would walk on my lunch breaks while listening to music. Since music is my life, I love listening to music while working and found a few ways to do it. Like have a YouTube playlist on in the background at the lowest volume possible if I can get away with it. I did just those two things. Then when I got home, I’d hang out with my ex or chill with myself.
