We got into an argument about this.
My bf isn’t abusive. He’s just anxious that I’m spending all my money on frivolous shit. Which I DO but I also have set aside some money as well which he doesn’t know about because it’s slipped my mind to tell him so we got into an argument about communicating over that because he freaked out assuming all the money was gone when it wasn’t.
I did however have an ex who was this abusive and it’s fucking ridiculous.